How to Support a Loved One Experiencing Complex Grief

Complex grief, sometimes called prolonged grief disorder, goes beyond the normal mourning process. It can feel as though the world has stopped for the person experiencing it, making it difficult for them to move forward. If you have a loved one dealing with complex grief, you may feel unsure about how to help. Here’s a guide to navigating this challenging situation.

What distinguishes complex grief from typical grief?

While grief is a natural response to loss, complex grief persists and intensifies over time. Symptoms might include an inability to accept the loss, intrusive memories, or avoiding anything that reminds them of their loved one. These feelings can last for months or even years.

If your loved one seems stuck in their grief, encourage them to explore grief counselling for professional support.

How can I be there for them?

The most important thing you can do is listen. Let them express their feelings without fear of judgment. Instead of offering solutions, simply say, “I’m here for you, and I want to help in any way I can.”

Are there things I should avoid saying?

Yes. Avoid minimising their pain with statements like “They’re in a better place” or “You’ll get over this soon.” While well-intentioned, these phrases can feel dismissive. Instead, acknowledge their feelings: “It’s okay to feel this way. Grief is deeply personal.”

How can I gently suggest seeking professional help?

Approach the conversation with care. For example, “I’ve noticed how hard this has been for you, and I wonder if talking to someone might help lighten the load. I’d be happy to help you find a counsellor.”

Supporting someone through complex grief is a delicate balance of patience, empathy, and encouragement.

Finding Help for Grief

Grief is something that everyone deals with differently - it’s important that every person dealing with grief is able to explore those feelings and sometimes, grief counselling can help with that.

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